This post is a little extra special. I always think about dedicating the smallest of thoughts which come to mind when I think about certain people who play big or small roles in my life and I never really get to doing it… thanks to India for having such a day like, “Women’s Day” and giving me the chance to finally take this moment to acknowledge some of the many important women in my life…
I am going to start off with someone who I believe represents and defines women from beginning and never stopping… Aaji. She’s 104 years old, from my fathers side of the family and as long as I can remember she has always had a wonderful smile on her face. Every time I see her, her blessings never change and I enjoy hearing them every-time. My favorite part of her blessings are the three most important aspects one should always have in life, Bal Budhi Vidya in translation that means, Strength, Wisdom and Intelligence. She has seen all part of the worlds from horses, rikshaws, trains, planes, cars and even a cruise ship!
The next two people I have been running around in diapers in-front of and they both are like my grandparents. In fact their entire family is like my family and it means the world to me to have these women by my side, they have seen the worst of me and the best of me and always are the angels in my life along with my families lives. The Devarajan, Kulkarni & Mark family. Chachi, Radhika Aunty, Rama Aunty, Maydha, Aparna and both grandmas.
There is something very interesting I find in us women is our strength to just being able to hold together and not just ourselves but a family… to Daadi Saab from the Satsangi family. Another person who is like my own grandparent. Sometimes I think, since I never had the chance to ever see or talk to my grandparents, god gave me many grandparents in my life and I am able to hear advice, life lessons and have love from many of them in my life. Daadi Saab you are such an amazing person and I admire your ability to hold the family together and I enjoy hearing all the stories from the kids about the little things you enjoy but that’s what life is all about…
In the Satsangi family there are many other women who have been apart of my life. Again like I have many grandparents, I have many moms. In fact about a weekend or two ago, my mom and I had to split ourselves between two events that we were invited to. I went to a wedding reception and was performing a dance performance. When I came in, I felt a little odd for a few moments because my mom wasn’t there. I was hanging out with Kanika Aunty and Seema Aunty and someone asked, “is this your daughter?” right when I was going to say no, Kanika Aunty said, “she is basically our daughter.” Once again those little things is what simply makes me the happiest person and also I feel extremely privileged to have them in my life along with Kalpna Bua.
We have the same birthdays, we are so similar in many ways and I admire her drive and passion. My Mausi (mom’s sister). It’s once again not quite by blood-relation but I have many memories till this date in my life of spending lot’s of time at her house and just sitting around and enjoying her talk about the next project she has in hand. Reminds me so much of myself, once I complete one thing I am already beginning the next thing. If one must learn about women empowerment, she is the person to go to.
I have another Mausi who has been my mom’s best friend since elementary school if I’m not mistaken-ed. Nam’s Mausi! Whenever your name pops up on my mom’s phone I tell mom she better pick up so she can straighten my mom out. I love her, she is practical, straight forward and a wonderful guidance towards doing what is right. I am so glad you are apart of our lives and both you and Ridhima are truly amazing women.
Another family who I must admire, the Fellner Family. Anjoo Aunty, you are another person I always admire. I always enjoy coming over spontaneously and spilling my Bollywood news to you and you always build so much interest in whatever I talk about. I can probably have a conversation with you about anything and you would be able to talk about it for hours whether it is of your interest or not. You and your family have always been there for us at odd times and I could never thank you enough for that. Anuva has a great role model to look-up to.
Vibha Aunty, there is a memory in the back of my head which has never left my thoughts for as long as I can remember. I remember at the time when my dad was sick and I as always was still part of many things in the community, I clearly remember you driving me to practices, rehearsals and letting me spend nights at your house. There are so many things you do for people, the community and for your family. You play so many kinds of roles and you never stop… it is extremely admirable at everything you do.
Shikha Aunty, you are young, fun and always full of energy. I always enjoy your company and being able to talk about almost anything with you. In the last year you have held yourself high and are so strong as a person for yourself and your family and it is all because of your mom. Both of you are two people I always admire as well, and she is going to always be proud of everything you do as you move forward in life.
To my “Chuddi-Buddies” (Diaper Buddies), Anamika Didi, Aparna Didi, Alyssa & Kaanchee! Even though we all don’t get to hang out as much as we used to before college happened… but I know every time we all get together now it is the best feeling in the world for me. I feel like we are all taken back into our childhood and we all just laugh and laugh for hours over the most pointless things. I will always cherish all the weird jokes, memories and times we have built together and I do hope when we get old and have families we’ll also throw the lame get together’s while our kids are up-stairs playing cards, Nintendo 64 or hide-and-seek in the dark?
To Emily, you are one person I could never thank enough. I feel when I can’t be there to help my mom out, you are there at a snap of a finger and I know for my mom it’s a huge help but for me I think of it as you being there in my feet and trust me you are a lot better at it now. Thank you so much for being there for our family when we need it and I will never get sick of hearing your insane of jokes!
Megha, I think every time I hang around you, there is not doubt that I will leave the conversation without getting a good laugh. You are sweet, talented and intelligent. Never lose these three things in yourself, they will help you get very far in life. And thanks to you, I also met Anjali on your 20th birthday! Anjali, you are one of a kind and a great mentor in my life and am so glad the first thing that connected us was fried chicken & Kuch Kuch Hota Hai!
Two my other two “B’s”! Bri & Banna… I know we fight a lot, we never agree on a lot of things but I don’t think the three of us would ever understand the meaning of friendship without one another. I am pretty sure my first “clique” was the Plastics and my first “secret head quarters” was THE HQ! We have endless memories together I do hope we stay friends forever and are able to share many, many more unforgettable moments in our lives together…
To all the women in both my mom’s side of the family and my dad’s side of the family…
Mami, Ekta Didi & Natasha Didi, time has flown by and with all of our busy lives we do not get to connect as often as the times we spent every summer, winter, spring and fall together when I was just a kid. I must say though, thanks to you all plus mom I am this “Bollywood-buff”. I remember the times where Ekta Didi was “big Anjali” and Natasha didi was “Tina” and I was “little Anjali”. I hope we all get the chance to reunite together and continue building off from the good times in the past and share many more moments together.
To all the Singh/Sinha Family Girls! In the last couple years we have been able to get together for Christmas and it has truly been a blast for me to be together with everyone. This past Christmas I realized I’m not just the only “weird” one! But in all honesty it has been wonderful, I admire all of you and your aspirations to do different things in life. I really do admire all 4 of the didi’s too. Rekha Didi, Meena Didi, Rita Didi & Prabha Didi. You all hold the family together and are really wonderful at what you do, not just at being mom or sisters to one another but just representing the ability for women to multi-task and get it perfectly right!
Lastly to the most Important person in my life…
I could write a novel on you mom but even that would be too long. You are a combination of all the people I mentioned above and it’s scary to say but I am starting to be just like you …minus the part where I want to work in Bollywood! You are phenomenal person and I cannot wait to spend the rest of my life with you by my side every step of the way. I can’t wait to be able to take care of you when you finally decide to stop doing the million things you do. I can’t wait to travel the world with you and make you the next “version” of Hiroo Aunty! I can’t wait to take you on the red carpet to Filmfare Awards and give my thank you speech starting off by saying, “I love you mom”! I can’t wait to give the chance for you to see me grow into this person I dream to be while you simply smile at me being a proud person. I love you for the person you are and never stop being that amazing person.
Happy Women’s Day to all the special people who play these important big or small roles in my life. It means the world to me and I wouldn’t trade any of you for anyone else.